We haven’t yet had the chance to meet, but I believe that I know who you are, and I know that it’s your desire to improve your current situation that led you to this blog.
I know that wherever you are in life, you want more. Whatever your successes and the richness of your experience, deep down you know it could be way better.
Not only because you believe it’s possible, but also because you have already proven it by deciding to visit this blog and starting to read its content. I am truly honored that you would visit my blog.
It doesn’t matter how you found this web site. Rather what is important to me is that you are here and that you know that I will do whatever it takes so you can benefit from it. It’s the least you can expect from me, and honestly, you deserve at least that for yourself.
So even when I write about myself, I always know that I’m part of you. It doesn’t matter if we meet each other or not, because these words will still flow from me to you. And neither I nor you, own these words…
Like most of my readers, you must be somebody who’s looking for both happiness and success in life, somebody who wants to improve, to change, and to release his maximum potential.
You want to have a positive impact on those around you, and why not, a positive impact on the world itself.
But there’s something…
It’s something deep inside of you, that stops you from going so far. You don’t know exactly what it is, but you can feel it, and you know for sure that it’s preventing you from achieving many things.
Maybe you feel the same as one of my former clients:
Sometimes I got a feeling that I don’t live the life I really deserve; I know that I have a lot of interesting goals in life. But I don’t know why I hesitate every time I make a new decision when it comes to those goals. Sometimes I go to bed, and I can’t stop thinking about all the choices that I didn’t make at the right time, and all the opportunities that I missed, which keeps me awake because I feel sad, and regret a lot. Although all I want in life is to be happy…”
Dear reader, maybe you can imagine that this could have been written by you at least to some extent?
If this’s not the case, please be honest and answer these questions:
- Do you feel that you have to please other people more than you should, even if it means sacrificing your own needs? Are you telling yourself that by doing these things, you’re a “good person,” but deep down you know you suffer and that you are doing it just because you don’t want to offend anyone?
- Are you looking for approval and/or validation of other people without end in work, social situations, with friends, or with your significant other? Do you work to impress others with your achievements?
- Do you find yourself avoiding change and taking on new challenges that make you step out of your comfort zone, at the cost of missing new opportunities?
- Do you have problems with your temper? Do you get angry for stupid reasons, in which those closest to you take the brunt of your wrath, and you regret it to only repeat the behavior again and again?
- Maybe everything seems okay (or at least that what you tell yourself), but you feel that your life doesn’t have any real meaning and nothing is as exciting as it used to be?
If that’s the case,
Here is the good news,
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE FEELING.
I know very well what it means to be overwhelmed by your fears, or when you avoid situations that would make you feel stressed-out or uncomfortable. For many years, I fought non-stop against these limiting beliefs that constrained me for a long time. Later, I discovered that the answer is not in fighting against those beliefs, but in fighting against what started them; fighting their origins…
We all have dreams we wish would come true. Hidden talents we wish we could one day share with the world. Dreams that we could make the difference in other people’s lives in a special way, and that we live in a better world. We all have had this moment when we’d carried a vision of the quality of the life that we would’ve liked to lead, and that we’d believed we’d deserved.
Unfortunately, those dreams sometimes become so forgotten in the routine and frustrations of daily-life, to the extent that we are not even making the smallest of efforts to make them happen.
“We don’t die only when our souls separate from us, we die already before then, when our days are the same, and we stop changing. When the only thing that grows in us are our age, and our weight” -Najib Mahfoud
Isn’t it cheerless to think that we live in a dying world ? it doesn’t have to be that way. We can change ourselves and by doing so, we can inspire others to do the same.
My objective is that you feel that I’m close by (even though we are talking about the virtual world) and that you understand that I’ve been through wjat you are going through.
So why this blog and why “Newkeylife”?
Because the good old times are done! Nowadays, we live in a very fast world. We have technologies so sophisticated. Thanks to search engines, with a simple click, you have dozens and even hundreds of websites, blogs, videos, and e-books, at your disposal, for anything you are looking for.
Now, you could ask a question in Quora about anything…even if it’s Paris Hilton’s shoe size!
But here’s the stressing part: there’s so much information that we don’t know what to choose, and self-help/self-improvement is no exception. In fact, as of late, there have been hundreds of books published on the subject. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a big fan of competing. I believe in abundance, and I support the notion that there’s a place in the world for everybody. That said, I have to help you in making the right choice, and it’s not that obvious my friend.
The difference in what I do is very simple. I avoid making things complicated. I wouldn’t want you to drown in minor details or in obvious tips like, “don’t be dependent on others” or “avoid negative people.” My goal is for you to understand exactly why you might be so co-dependent on other people. Then, we can start taking action.
Gaining knowledge is important, but lacking it is not the real issue. The challenge lies in applying knowledge- in a very specific way. Think about companies and startups for example. Do they pay their employees for what they know, or FOR WHAT THEY KNOW HOW TO DO effectively?
What’s so difficult about applying knowledge is that nowadays, we have so little time in our hurried modern-lives, that we seldom make time to stop, to breathe, and to simply exist.
I want you to be able to feel that your confidence is natural and spontaneous so that you don’t have to second guess yourself. For example, you wouldn’t ask yourself whether you were confident during the job interview today or not. This method of self-improvement is about a way of being, not a way of acting.
Finally, and without falling into the trap of over-generalization, I have a feeling that you and me, dear reader, share the same impression- tips and advice related to self-help are frequently framed in terms of opposite perspectives. That is, “I’m a winner, my life is perfect, you’re a loser, your life sucks.” This is the old model of the guru. Many times, this does more harm than good even if it stems from good intentions.
My aim is to come from a place of humility, whether it be in my seminars or my blog. I’m a human being, so I’m not perfect and I will never be. I’m still improving myself, and yes, I thought I was a loser. Maybe like you. Maybe a bit less. Maybe even worse. In this blog, you will find practical information about how I changed myself. I will do my best to help you change yourself. If you don’t want to that’s okay…let’s go for a drink!
So, let’s get started!