We haven’t yet had the chance to meet, but I believe that I know who you are, and I know that it is your desire to improve your current situation which is what led you to this blog.
I know that wherever you are in life, you want more. Whatever your successes have been, and whatever richeness your experiences may have brought, deep down, you know it could be way better.
You know your whole life could be more interesting…
Congratulations! You believe you can change your life for the better.
But not only do you believe it, but you’ve already started acting on it by deciding to visit this blog and by starting to read its content. I am truly honored that you would visit my blog.
It doesn’t matter how you found this web site, rather that you are here. It is important that you know that I will do whatever it takes so that you can benefit from this blog-it is the least you can expect from me. You deserve at least that for yourself.
When I write about myself, I always write as though I am a part of you. It doesn’t matter if we meet each other or not because these words will still flow from me to you. Neither, I nor you, own these words…
Like most of my readers, you must be someone who’s looking for both, happiness and success in life. You are someone who wants to improve, to change, and to unleash your maximum potential.
You want to have a positive impact on those around you, and by extention, a positive impact on the world.
But there’s one thing…
And it’s that one thing that lie deep inside of you, that stops you from going as far as you wish. You don’t know exactly what it is, but you can feel it, and you know for sure that it is preventing you from achieving many things in your life.
You may feel the same as one of my former clients:
“Sometimes I have a feeling that I don’t live the life I really deserve; I know that I have a lot of interesting goals in life but I don’t know why I hesitate every time I make a new decision- especially when it comes to those goals. Sometimes I go to bed and I can’t stop thinking about all the choices that I didn’t make at the right time. I think of all the opportunities that I’ve missed which keeps me awake. I feel sadness and regret. All I want from life is to be happy…”
Dear reader, can you imagine that this could have been written by you ? At least to some extent?
If this is not the case, please be honest and answer these questions:
- Do you feel that you have to please other people more than you should, even if it means sacrificing your own needs? Are you telling yourself that by doing these things, you’re a “good person,” but deep down you know you suffer, and that you are doing it just because you don’t want to offend anyone?
- Are you looking for approval and/or validation from other people without end? At work? Social situations? With friends or with your significant other? Do you work to impress others with your achievements?
- Do you find yourself avoiding change or dodging new challenges that may make you step out of your comfort zone, at the cost of missing new opportunities?
- Do you have problems with your temper? Do you get angry for foolish reasons? Do those closest to you take the brunt of your wrath, and do you regret it to only to repeat the behavior again and again?
- Does everything seem okay (or at least that’s what you tell yourself), but you feel that your life doesn’t have any real meaning, and nothing is as exciting as it used to be?
If this is the case,
then here is the good news.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE FEELING.
I know very well what it means to be overwhelmed by fears, and what it feels like to avoid situations that would make us feel stressed-out or uncomfortable. For many years, I fought non-stop against these limiting beliefs that constrained me for a long time. Later, I discovered that the answer is not in fighting against those beliefs, but in fighting against what started them; their origins…
We all have dreams we wish would come true. Hidden talents we wish we could one day share with the world. Hopes that we could make a difference in other people’s lives in a special way, and that we live in a better world. We all have had this moment when we’d carried a vision of the quality of the life that we would’ve liked to lead, and that we’d believed we deserved.
Unfortunately, those dreams sometimes become so forgotten in the routine and frustrations of daily-life, to the extent that we do not even make the smallest of efforts to make them happen.
We don’t die only when our souls separate from us, we die already before then, when our days are the same, and we stop changing. When the only thing that grows in us are our age, and our weight” -Najib Mahfoud
Isn’t it cheerless to think that we live in a dying world ? It doesn’t have to be that way. We can change ourselves and by doing so, we can inspire others to do the same.
My objective is that you feel that I’m close by (even though we are talking about the virtual world) and that you understand that I’ve been through what you are going through.
So why this blog and why “Newkeylife”?
Because the good old times are done! Nowadays, we live in a very fast world. We have technologies so sophisticated. Thanks to search engines, by typing in one query, you have dozens and even hundreds of websites, blogs, videos, and e-books, at your disposal, for just about anything you are looking for.
Now, you could ask a question in Quora about anything…even if it’s Paris Hilton’s shoe size!
But here’s the stressful part: there’s so much information that we don’t know what to choose, and self-help/self-improvement is no exception. In fact, as of late, there have been hundreds of books published on the subject. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a big fan of competing. I believe in abundance, and I support the notion that there’s a place in the world for everybody. That said, I have to help you in making the right choice, and it’s not that obvious my friend.
The difference in what I do is very simple. I avoid making things complicated. I wouldn’t want you to drown in minor details or in obvious tips like, “don’t be dependent on others” or “avoid negative people.” My goal is for you to understand exactly why you might be so co-dependent on other people. Then, we can start taking action.
Gaining knowledge is important, but lacking it is not the real issue. The challenge lies in applying knowledge- in a very specific way. Think about companies and startups for example. Do they pay their employees for what they know, or FOR WHAT THEY KNOW HOW TO DO effectively?
What’s so difficult about applying knowledge is that nowadays, we have so little time in our hurried modern-lives, that we seldom make time to stop, to breathe, and to simply exist.
I want you to be able to feel that your confidence is natural and spontaneous so that you don’t have to second guess yourself. For example, you wouldn’t ask yourself whether you were confident during the job interview today or not. This method of self-improvement is about a way of being, not a way of acting.
Finally, and without falling into the trap of over-generalization, I have a feeling that you and me, dear reader, share the same impression- tips and advice related to self-help are frequently framed in terms of opposite perspectives. That is, “I’m a winner, my life is perfect, you’re a loser, your life sucks.” This is the old guru-model. Many times, this does more harm than good even if it stems from good intentions.
My aim is to come from a place of humility, whether it be in my seminars, my coaching or my blog. I’m a human being, so I’m not perfect and I will never be. I’m still improving myself, and yes, I thought I was a loser. Maybe like you. Maybe a bit less. Maybe even worse. In this blog, you will find practical information about how I changed myself. I will do my best to help you change yourself. If you don’t want to that’s okay…let’s go for a drink!
So, let’s get started!