Dear Reader,
We haven’t yet had the chance to meet, but I believe that I know who you are, and I know that it is your desire to improve your current situation which led you to this blog.
I know that wherever you are in life, you want more. Whatever your successes have been, and whatever richeness your experiences may have brought, deep down, you know it could be way better.
Congratulations! You beleive you can change your life for the better.
Not only do you believe, but you’ve already started acting on it by deciding to visit this blog and by starting to read its content. I am truly honored that you would visit my blog.
It doesn’t matter how you found this web site, rather that you are here. It is important that you know that I will do whatever it takes so that you can benefit from this blog-it is the least you can expect from me. You deserve at least that for yourself.
When I write about myself, I always write as though I am a part of you. It doesn’t matter if we meet each other or not because these words will still flow from me to you. Neither, I nor you, own these words…
Like most of my readers, you must be someone who’s looking for both, happiness and success in life. You are someone who wants to improve, to change, and to release your maximum potential.
You want to have a positive impact on those around you, and by extention, a positive impact on the world.
But there’s one thing…
It’s that one thing that lie deep inside of you, that stops you from going as far as you wish. You don’t know exactly what it is, but you can feel it, and you know for sure that it is preventing you from achieving many things in your life.
You may feel the same as one of my former clients:
“Sometimes I have a feeling that I don’t live the life I really deserve; I know that I have a lot of interesting goals in life but I don’t know why I hesitate every time I make a new decision- especially when it comes to those goals. Sometimes I go to bed and I can’t stop thinking about all the choices that I didn’t make at the right time. I think of all the opportunities that I’ve missed which keeps me awake. I feel sadness and regret. All I want from life is to be happy…”
Dear reader, can you imagine that this could have been written by you ? At least to some extent?
If this is not the case, please be honest and answer these questions:
- Do you feel that you have to please other people more than you should, even if it means sacrificing your own needs? Are you telling yourself that by doing these things, you’re a “good person,” but deep down you know you suffer, and that you are doing it just because you don’t want to offend anyone?
- Are you looking for approval and/or validation from other people without end? At work? Social situations? With friends or with your significant other? Do you work to impress others with your achievements?
- Do you find yourself avoiding change or dodging new challenges that may make you step out of your comfort zone, at the cost of missing new opportunities?
- Do you have problems with your temper? Do you get angry for stupid reasons? Do those closest to you take the brunt of your wrath, and do you regret it to only to repeat the behavior again and again?
- Does everything seems okay (or at least that’s what you tell yourself), but you feel that your life doesn’t have any real meaning, and nothing is as exciting as it used to be?
If this is the case,
then here is the good news.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE FEELING.
I know very well what it means when we are overwhelmed by our fears, or when we avoid any situation where we feel stressed out or lonely. For many years I fought nonstop against those limiting beliefs that constrained me for a long time. After a long time, I discovered the answer is not in fighting against the beliefs, but in fighting against what started them, their origins…
We all have dreams that we wish would come true, hidden talents that we wish we could one day share, that we could make the difference in other people’s lives in a special way, and that we live in a better world. We all had this moment when we had a vision of the quality of our life that we would like, and that we deserve.
Unfortunately, those dreams sometimes become so forgotten in the routines and frustrations of daily life, to the extent that we are not making even the smallest of efforts to make them happen.
“We don’t die only when our souls separate from us, we die already before when our days are the same, and we stop changing, when the only thing that grow in us are our age, and our weight” Najib Mahfoud
My objective is that you feel that I’m close by (even though we are talking about the virtual world) and that you understand that I’ve been through it as well (Oh yeah!)
So why this blog and why “NewKeylife”?
Because The good old times are gone! Nowadays we live in a very fast world. We have technologies so sophisticated, thanks to search engines, with a simple click you have dozens and even hundreds of websites, blogs, videos, and e-books, at your disposal, for anything you looking for.
You could go to a forum, or even ask a question in Quora about anything…even if it the size of the Paris Hilton’s shoes!
But here’s the stressing part: there’s so much information that we don’t know what to choose, and self-help/self-improvement is no exception. In fact, as of late there have been hundreds of books published about the subject. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a big fan of competition. I believe in abundance and support the notion that there’s a place in the world for everybody. That said, I have to help you in making the right choice, and it’s not that easy, my friend.
The difference in what I do is very simple. I avoid making it things complicated, and I wouldn’t want you to drown in insignificant details or in obvious tips like “don’t be dependent on other people”, or “avoid negative people.” My goal is that you understand exactly why you might be co-dependent so much on other people; then we start taking action.
Getting knowledge is important, but that’s not the real issue. The challenge lies in applying knowledge in a very specific way. Think about companies and businesses for example. Do they pay their employees for what they know, or FOR WHAT THEY KNOW HOW TO DO effectively?
What makes the job even harder is that nowadays we have so little time in our hurried modern lives, that we scarcely make time to stop, breath, and simply exist.
I want you to be able to live in a simple, spontaneous and natural way so you don’t have to even ask yourself whether you were confident during the job interview today, for example. This is about a way of being, not a way of acting.
Finally, and without falling into the trap of over-generalization, I have a feeling that you and me, dear reader, share the same feeling that tips and advice related to self-help have always been in terms of “I’m a winner, my life is perfect, you’re a loser, your life sucks.” It’s the old model of the guru and many times it does more harm than good (even if it has good intention).
My goal is to always come from a place of humility, whether it is in my seminars or my blog. I’m a human being, so I’m not perfect, and I will never be. I’m still improving myself, and, yes, I thought I was a loser, maybe like you, maybe a bit less or worse. Here’s how I changed myself. I will do my best to help you to change yourself. If you don’t want to that’s okay…let’s go for a drink!
Now let’s start!